I recently discovered that it is now International Baby Wearing Week, which runs from 7-13th October this year. As we’re both keen on wearing slings, my wife and I decided to go on a little excursion last weekend to a town called Sling that happens to be a mere ten minute drive away from where we live in North Wales. It may not be renowned as the village of Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch that is only a few minutes further away on the island of Anglesey and certainly doesn’t attract bus loads of tourists who queue up to have their picture taken next to the sign on the platform of its small railway station, but we ventured to Sling ourselves to take photos of our son in his sling next to the solitary sign in the village bearing the name Sling. My wife has now also done blog post about Sling and slings at her blog Mindful Mam.
As it happens, my wife and I were able to put him in a different sling for our photos as we have quite a few. Some of these we have bought from eBay and we have bought others new over the web. It’s been great to be able to try out slings that we’ve been lent by friends before deciding to buy, and my wife has been to a sling library in Colwyn Bay. For my part, I am a proud member of the UK Sling Dads group on Facebook and have enjoyed carrying our son in a variety of different carriers ever since he was a few weeks old. It used to be that he’d go to sleep almost instantly when we popped him into a carrier, opened the front door and walked only a few footsteps.
I’ve always loved the way our son, who is almost six months old, is able to look around when he’s in the sling and also feels close by. It’d feel odd to me just pushing him about in a buggy and not being able to look at him. I’d miss not being able to make the silly faces at him for a start. I also feel that carrying our son in a sling has also helped to create a stronger father-son bond. It was really cute when he was a few days old and would just go to sleep on people and it still is when he gently nods off while he’s in one of his slings when we’re carrying him. I have, however, learnt that it’s often a good idea to put the sling on before a coat as it can be a challenge coming back home with him asleep and trying to take my coat off without waking him up. In fact, it’s kind of like playing the kids’ game Buckaroo.
On a recent trip to France that I have mentioned in a previous blog post entitled Our First Family Holiday, we didn’t see many other people carrying their kids in slings. In fact, I think that we only saw three and one of those was in a shop that sold eco baby products such as slings. This started me wondering what attitudes towards sling wearing were like in different countries round the world, and I’ve been able to discuss this with fellow members of the great Multicultural Kid Blogs group on Facebook. Here are some of the insights that fellow bloggers provided:
- Stephen Greene (Head of the Heard) told me that slings and other baby carriers are very practical in Brazil as the condition of pavements in certain areas means that using a buggy is more or less impossible.
- Kim Siegal (Mama Mzungu) has done a great blog post about the impracticality of using a normal buggy if you live in Kenya and also talked about how wearing a baby in a sling on one’s front as opposed to one’s back can result in strange looks from locals.
- Sandra Amorin (BXL Sprout) observed that carrying babies in slings in Belgium is a bit of a middle class thing, also adding that slings were not very common at all in Portugal and that carrying a baby in one can be something about which passers-by comment out of inquisitiveness.
- Amanda Ponzio Mouttaki (Maroc Mama) contrastingly pointed out that it is very common to see babies being carried in slings in Morocco and that strollers are a rarity.
- Annabelle Humanes (Piri Piri Lexicon) backed up my initial impression that slings are a bit of a rarity in France and told of how a male relative had to put up with quite a few judgmental remarks when carrying his daughter in a sling.
- Sarah-Jane Begonja (Chasing the Donkey) went as far as saying that she had never seen anyone carrying a baby in a sling in Croatia and received strange looks when doing so herself, adding that there seems to be a bit of a national obsession with fancy prams.
- Souad Guex (Babelkid) used to run a babywearing consultancy and blogged about sling wearing while doing so. For Souad, who became the first trained babywearing consultant in the UK, babywearing is ‘the second most important parenting tool after breastfeeding’.
One thing that I’ve noticed here in the UK is that whilst I have seen other men also wearing their kids in slings, there aren’t all that many. Nevertheless, when my wife went to our village supermarket the man behind the till started talking about how he and his wife also carried their baby in a sling and thought that it was great. I remember feeling slightly self-conscious the first time that I went out on my own with my son in a baby carrier, mainly because I’d never seen any men carrying a baby in a sling in our village before. When my wife and I were at a music festival (at which our son was wearing his very cute looking ear protectors) I noticed a few people smiling and pointing as I walked around with our son in a sling. At the time, I couldn’t work out whether it was because he looked cute with his ear protectors on or because they thought I looked silly. It felt a bit weird in some ways, but this was probably because I’m kind of shy more than anything else.
As the weeks go by, I wonder how many slings and baby carriers we will ultimately accumulate. As it happens, my wife said that a new sling that she’d seen on the internet (a sort of woven wrap that she will be able use to make both a wrap and a ring sling or a bag) is what she would really like for her birthday this month. As it happens the sling that she has her heart set on is a second hand sling that is in excellent condition, which may mean that I’m able to successfully participate in the ‘October: Buy Nothing New Month’ initiative that Ute Limacher-Riebold recently described in a post on her blog Expat Since Birth. As to when we’ll stop getting new baby carriers, it’ll probably be when we discover one that can be described as the….
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I have linked this post up with the Something for the Weekend blog post linky run by parent bloggers Sarah Miles (The Voice of Sarah Miles) and Tom Briggs (Diary of the Dad).
Stephen Greene
Oct 10, 2013 @ 18:55:01
We had a baby carrier rather than a sling. I felt a bit self-concious wearing it at the start, but also incredibly proud at the same time. My wife rearely used it because when we were out together I was always the one who took it first.
Jonathan
Oct 10, 2013 @ 20:23:13
Thanks for sharing your experiences, Stephen, both here and when I was preparing this post. It’s been great to get so many perspectives form around the world.
expatsincebirth
Oct 10, 2013 @ 19:03:49
We had a sling with my son, and added another one when my twin daughters were born. It was a great help! There are also some for twins, but I didn’t try them. It would have been too heavy for my back and surely too warm! (my girls were born in June and it was one of the hottest summers since ages!)… Btw, my husband did wear it too. Especially in Italy (with my son in the sling) because walking around with stroller in some cities is not easy (because of the pavement, the traffic etc.). Thanks for bringing back lovely memories 😉
Jonathan
Oct 10, 2013 @ 20:25:10
Thanks for sharing that! I really admire anyone who’s able to carry twins in a sling. I think I saw a picture of that on the internet recently, it’s pretty impressive.
I totally agree with you about slings being really practical in a lot of places. In rural areas like where we live they’re great if you’re going on walks that are in fields or bumpy surfaces.
expatsincebirth
Oct 11, 2013 @ 14:54:53
Oh yes, I also appreciated having my girls in the sling when I took my first walks on the beach. It was windy: no sand in their faces and being a bit higher did help a lot, not to mention the fact that strollers are not that easy on sand… And this feeling the little ones against you is just too good. Sure, if you have to carry more than the kid it becomes a bit too heavy for long walks. At least for me. – I never saw a mum carrying twind in a sling. Only on pictures.
mamasmilesblog
Oct 10, 2013 @ 20:22:47
I am a huge fan of babywearing! I think it is more common in metropolitan areas, where space is tight and people realize that it is easier to get on and off buses, etc with a sling than a stroller! I have worn all of my babies everywhere, and often get comments and sometimes questions.
Jonathan
Oct 10, 2013 @ 20:26:53
I’ve also got the impression that here in the UK it might be a bit of an urban thing, but it seems to also appeal to eco-conscious people in the fairly rural area where we live in North Wales. My wife sometimes goes to a weekly meeting of a sling wearers’ group and there are quite a few people in it who are really keen on baby wearing.
Jonathan
Oct 17, 2013 @ 08:43:04
I think you’re definitely right about slings being particularly practical in busy urban areas. They’re also good for the sort of fairly rural area where we live as it makes it easier to go walking with our son in places that wouldn’t be all that stroller-friendly.
Chasing the Donkey (@chaseTHEdonkey)
Oct 10, 2013 @ 23:30:41
What a great photo! I have to say, the number of men I have ever seen wearing a sling is ZERO. You’re my very first… I think that means I need to get out more.
Also thanks for mentioning us.
Jonathan
Oct 11, 2013 @ 08:02:58
Thanks. Here in the UK, there are definitely more women that men who wear babies in slings but I’ve also seen quite a few men doing it. Thanks for sharing your experiences of attitudes to babywearing when I was planning this post.
carol
Oct 11, 2013 @ 08:33:12
As a member of the Sling Dads group I hope you’ll have the decency to inform him where he’s going to be slung before his visit next month…..C
benfentem
Oct 11, 2013 @ 15:44:14
Great post Jonathan. I think you are entirely right about the UK, for whatever reason many Dads, even in Babywearing families, don’t take up the opportunity to carry their kids in a sling. Some of that I think is because babywearing is a little underground or alternative, some of it is embarassment and I think some of it (occasionally) is Mummy not being willing to share!
I think there is a lot of promotion required to normalise babywearing in the UK, particularly for Dads. Its why we set up the Facebook group and have just launched the website at http://www.slingdads.co.uk
I’m also training as a babywearing consultant in 2 weeks, which will make me the first Male babywearing consultant in the UK. Lets hope I’m the first of many!
Jonathan
Oct 11, 2013 @ 16:31:55
Thanks Ben, and congratulations on becoming the first male babywearing consultant in the UK. It’s good to see men taking on this sort of role and I totally agree with you about there being a need to normalize babywearing. Some people do seem to see it a bit hippyish. I don’t have the problem with sharing slings with my other half by the way, we don’t really need to share since we’ve got a few different slings!
Natalie Ray
Oct 11, 2013 @ 20:15:28
I’m also a fan of babywearing, it’s the most natural thing in the world, I love carrying my little girl instead of having her in a buggy and I’m sure it has made her calmer and assisted with her speech. My husband also carries our daughter. We have a mei tai at the moment and I’ve ordered a ring sling which will hopefully arrive tomorrow. We used a stretchy when she was tiny. Thanks for a great post, really enjoyed reading it 🙂
Jonathan
Oct 11, 2013 @ 20:23:20
Thanks for sharing that, Natalie. I’d love to know if research has been carried out into how babywearing influences children’s development.
Sarah Miles
Oct 11, 2013 @ 21:51:38
Now for me, there would be a harmonic irony if your son was called David. Can’t help myself. A theologian.
May I pinch your photo for my pinterest baord of amusing place names?
Thank you for linking with #SFTW, a great post.
Jonathan
Oct 12, 2013 @ 12:00:53
I had to use Google to work out the David’s sling reference….
I’ve been wondering over the last week if anyone else has taken their photo next to the Sling sign for similar reasons, e.g. with a baby in a sling or with their arm in a sling after a break. Feel free to use my photo for your pinterest board – thanks for asking. Was it Sling or Llanfairpwllgwyngyllgogerychwyrndrobwllllantysiliogogogoch that you were planning to add to your board of amusing place names? 🙂
Thanks for running the #SFTW, it’s a great way of discovering new blogs and interesting articles.
katepickle2
Oct 13, 2013 @ 01:04:43
I loved carrying all my babies in various slings and carriers.
When I first started (nearly ten years ago) I got a lot of looks, but that is possibly because I was carrying twins rather than that it was uncommon. But here in Australia you couldn’t buy a carrier other than the Baby Bjorn front pack type in the shops. But the time I had my last baby three years ago slings and carriers were more common. I know she at least a couple of people out at markets with their babies in Ergos or slings and some mainstream baby stores now sell them!
Jonathan
Oct 13, 2013 @ 15:29:15
Glad to know that you enjoyed carrying your children in slings so much as well. It’s really interesting to hear how things have changed over the last ten years.
I’m not sure how different things are here in the UK compared to Australia. We’ve bought most of our slings over the internet, partly because there aren’t really all that many big stores selling lots of baby stuff near where we live.
John S Green
Oct 14, 2013 @ 19:43:33
My wife and I have lived in Bellingham, Washington, 80 miles north of Seattle and just 50 miles south of Vancouver, B. C.. Babywearing is very common here, and many dad’s use slings. I have been inspired by the healthy attitude in the Pacific NW in general.
When my daughter was getting ready to pop out and join the world, I perused the “child development” section and found a classic… “The Continuum Concept” by Jean Leidloff. She espouses childwearing to the max. Her writing were, apparently, the precurser to “attachment parenting”. I have branched out since then, but still love the premise of Leidloff, which is to carry baby everywhere, anyhow…
Jonathan
Oct 14, 2013 @ 21:01:55
It’s interesting to hear about how common babywearing is where you live, John. I hadn’t heard of the Jean Leidloff book that you mentioned and have just searched for it on the internet. Despite its age, it seems like it could be well worth a look. Thanks for mentioning it!
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