Going to the supermarket with our son in a sling has almost become part of our weekend routine and has become an unlikely father and son bonding activity. I normally drive there (with our son in his car seat rather than a sling!) while my wife has an opportunity to have a rest or get on with things that wouldn’t be so easy with our son around. I’ve also grown to love carrying our son in a sling as I can see him and he seems to enjoy being able to look around and people watch.
Going round the supermarket with our sun in a sling is an activity that can be broken into a series of challenges. I’ve talked before about what parenting and game shows have in common, and our shopping trip can be a bit like a cross between Supermarket Sweep and the Crystal Maze. In fact, it can be broken down into five main challenges:
1. Strapping son into the sling. I normally carry our son in something that is a bit of a cross between a sling and a baby carrier. Putting him in the sling is normally fairly easy, but fastening him in and tightening up the straps on the side can be a bit of a challenge. I think that I’ve got more used to this since the start of our regular shopping trips.
2. Keeping our son happy while we’re going round the supermarket. Normally this isn’t too much of a problem as he seems to enjoy looking around at all the items on the shelves and the other shoppers. On one trip, I remember him trying to grab the shopping list a few times and letting him hold it while I filled up a paper bag with mushrooms. By the time I had done so, he’d torn the corner off the shopping list and seemed like he was about to see what it tasted like. Thankfully I noticed just in time.
Last month, I wanted to try out a few tablet computers in the supermarket and this turned out to be a bit of a challenge as our son wasn’t all that keen at remaining in the same place for too long. He also seemed keen to try out a few himself as he reached out from a sling. When I told my wife about this, she made a very good point about this being a good test of potential tablets for a new dad like myself. I now have a tablet and have managed to prevent our son getting his hands on it so far. Like I thought would be the case, it isn’t as good for using to play peek-a-boo as my laptop but I still like it.
3. Not making an idiot of yourself by talking in a child-like manner. I do chat away to our son quite a lot while we’re going round the supermarket and do feel slightly self-conscious about this sometimes. That said, I do think that becoming a parent has lowered my inhibitions somewhat. Only a few weeks ago, I found myself singing along to ‘What does the fox say’ while going round the supermarket.
4. Remembering that our son is not riding in the trolley. On at least one occasion, I have gently pushed the shopping trolley backwards and forwards in the supermarket while looking at products on the shelf. This sort of thing might help to soothe a child but our son’s still not sat in a shopping trolley yet. I think that this behaviour is an extension of the phenomenon of still swaying from side-to-side after you’ve stop holding your child and handed him/her to someone else.
5. Keeping son asleep. After a while, our son normally does to sleep in the sling while we’re going round the supermarket. I don’t blame him as it’s perhaps not the most exciting excursion in the local area. Keeping him asleep is normally fairly easy but gets more difficult when it comes to unloading the trolley at the checkout, then packing the shopping into bags and putting it back into the trolley. I felt that I excelled myself recently when I managed to avoid waking up our son during this process a few weeks ago, especially as I managed to get some cherry ice cream out from the back of a freezer without him so much as doing a little wriggle.
Despite living near a village called Sling and being a big fan of baby wearing, I have to confess that we bought a buggy (a.k.a. stroller) a few months ago. It felt a bit weird when I first took my son round a shop in it. I felt like I was doing something wrong, it was like I had decided not to get out of the car and drive it round the store. If you’re from the local store in question, please don’t worry; I reckon I’d struggle to get our not particularly big Skoda through your front doors and I definitely couldn’t drive it round the the aisles.
My wife and I waited until our son was about six months old before getting a buggy, and I think that this surprised some people. We didn’t feel the need of a buggy at the time and now generally use the buggy once or twice a week. I had thought that maybe I’ll send up doing a post ‘shopping with our son in a stroller’ a few months down the line, but I generally prefer the word ‘buggy’ to stroller and think that ‘shopping with our son in a sling’ sounds a bit more punchy.
In fact, I think that ‘shopping with our song in a sling’ sounds like it could be a line from some sort of parenthood-inspired rap. I just need to come up with more than one line now. Rapping may not be something that’s particularly associated with rural North Wales or my native Scotland, but I’m aware of several Welsh language rappers and rap groups that have come from very near to where we live. In addition, I recently watched a documentary about a Scottish rap duo called The Great Hip-hop Hoax in which two Scottish rappers respond to being ridiculed from rapping and sounding Scottish by pretending to be American in order to get a record deal. I wonder if I could get signed up by a major label if I put on an American accent and penned a few more lyrics about going shopping with our son in a sling…
If you were to do a rap about being a parent, what would it’s title be? Have you discovered any unexpected activities that have allowed you to bond with your children?
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nealcall
Feb 04, 2014 @ 00:01:21
My daughter never loved being in a sling or baby bjorn or anything similar, but she still liked to be carried. Back when she only weighed 12 or fifteen pounds, I’d get a good, comfortable grip on her and carry her for hour-long walks around the neighborhood. I miss those times,
Jonathan
Feb 05, 2014 @ 19:41:18
I also really miss some thins about when our baby son was smaller. I just loved it when he’d go to sleep when I was holding him and just stay there for an hour or two until he woke up.
rcrown2
Feb 04, 2014 @ 03:16:31
I’ve been wearing our almost 3 month old daughter since she was one month and thoroughly enjoy it. She’s usually pretty good when shopping, I just have to make sure I’m constantly swaying and either talking or humming in a deep voice. This really makes for some awkward stares, but if my baby is happy, then I could care less!
I’m sure you could find more lyrics to a rap, just start practicing when trying to sing him to sleep. I’ve been making all kinds of songs on the fly this way. My rap song would be titled “Ganstas Don’t Cry”.
Jonathan
Feb 05, 2014 @ 19:39:50
Thanks for sharing your experiences and your rap lyrics! I often do a bit of swaying or bouncing up and down when I’ve got our son in a sling. It probably does look a bit silly but that doesn’t really bother me. Like you say, keeping your baby happy is the priority.
So This is Fatherhood
Feb 04, 2014 @ 06:40:28
My kid loves being in the shopping cart or stroller because she points at things and – I think – tries to figure out what they are. Plus, carrying around a 25-pound kid is murder on your back. Props to you!
Jonathan
Feb 05, 2014 @ 19:38:17
I guess all the people and all the different products to look at are kind of exciting for a small kid. Thankfully our son probably isn’t quite 25 pounds, but it’s probably not going to be long before he is.
Annabelle
Feb 05, 2014 @ 19:34:26
I got so many comments shopping in Tesco with my baby in a wrap. Some were nice, others were not!
Jonathan
Feb 05, 2014 @ 19:35:51
That’s interesting to hear. I haven’t had any comments when I’ve been out and about with my son in the sling so far.
Clarissa Hooper
Feb 06, 2014 @ 00:10:00
I have a toddler and infant and I HATE using a double stroller (double buggy in your parts??) I usually hold my son in my ERGO carrier (BEST on the market!) while the toddler sits in the shopping cart.
Jonathan
Feb 09, 2014 @ 21:49:50
Sounds like a great way to do things, glad to hear that you also enjoy baby wearing!
kidworldcitizen
Feb 06, 2014 @ 12:30:42
I used to love wearing my babies!:) I never used a sling because I couldn’t handle the uneven weight, but I love the Ergo, love the Mai-Tai, we even had a backpack for hiking… I wish my kids were little enough to still carry them around:).
Jonathan
Feb 09, 2014 @ 21:57:24
That’s great that you enjoyed baby wearing too. We’ve got quite a few different slings and carriers and there are some that I like at more than others.
Thelifeofwife
Feb 07, 2014 @ 13:19:58
I love using our baby sling, but I never really wear it to go shopping as I worry that it will stop me being able to stretch to the top shelf or bend down to the bottom one without tipping our little one out!
Pocolo
Jonathan
Feb 09, 2014 @ 21:58:45
It can be a bit challenge reaching for things with a baby in a sling!
Jaime Oliver
Feb 07, 2014 @ 18:10:49
I am so thinking i ought try this out if we decided to go with baby 3 .. i have never tried using one
Jonathan
Feb 09, 2014 @ 22:01:22
It can take a bit of getting used to at first, but my wife and I have really enjoyed using slings and carriers with our son.
Kim Carberry
Feb 07, 2014 @ 22:00:48
I never used a sling with my two even though I did buy one when I was pregnant with my first…..Sometimes wish I had now just to have the experience!
Jonathan
Feb 09, 2014 @ 22:02:37
Slings and carriers can take a bit of getting used to and I’ve heard a few people say that they didn’t really take to them. I’ve certainly got a lot out of it.
The Scared Dad (@The_Scared_Dad)
Feb 07, 2014 @ 23:26:53
Jonathan,
I’m about to have my first kid soon in May, and I’ve been circling all the blogs reading peoples posts, stories, and experiences because I just started a blog about being a first time father, and I’m trying to soak in everything I possibly can.
This post was pretty funny. It’s things like this that make me look forward to being a dad. I just hope the song that entertains my kid isn’t as awkward to sing and What does the fox say
Robert
http://www.thescareddad.com
Jonathan
Feb 09, 2014 @ 21:55:07
Thanks for commenting, Robert, and good luck with the preparations for being a dad. I look forward to checking out your blog.
Tarana Khan
Feb 08, 2014 @ 10:56:01
I really wish I had used a sling when my son was younger! Shopping would have been so much easier. It’s wonderful that you and your son have gotten used to this routine! #PoCoLo
Jonathan
Feb 09, 2014 @ 21:53:39
Thanks for commenting, my wife and I have really got a lot out of using slings (and we’ve got quite a few of them!).
Victoria Welton (@VicWelton)
Feb 09, 2014 @ 09:17:03
A sling is such a lovely way to get close to your baby – I couldn’t get on with mine when Grace was small!Thank you for sharing with PoCoLo 🙂
Jonathan
Feb 09, 2014 @ 21:50:30
Slings do take a bit of getting used to and I can appreciate that not everyone’s going to take to them.
Jill
Feb 10, 2014 @ 02:40:37
Slings certainly require an adjustment phase!
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Mar 19, 2014 @ 19:04:29
We never did use a sling. It was baby carrier ( part of the pram system ) or push chair.
Jonathan
Mar 19, 2014 @ 19:32:26
I guess they’re not for everyone. As with so many other aspects of parenting, I suppose it’s a case of finding what works for you and going with it.
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